Saturday, January 10, 2009


Hello, lovers! Today's topic is blindfolds. If that triggers childhood memories of Blind Man's Bluff or picking up a stick and whacking at a piñata, I am here to alter your perception just a tiny bit. Yes, blindfolds are part and parcel of some childhood games. Adult games, too!

Think using a blindfold is a bit over the top? Then think about expressions of love and the actions that lead to lovemaking itself. Do you close your eyes when you kiss? How about when you hold the person you love? Do you make love in the dark or do you prefer some light? If you really think about it for a moment, perhaps a blindfold makes sense as a way to deepen, or heighten, an already intimate and pleasurable act.

Taking the visual out of the experience brings our other senses to the forefront. Imagine that you are making love to your man and that you are wearing a blindfold. He is kissing you. What does he taste like? Are his lips soft? If he strokes you, how do his fingers and hands feel? Are there calluses on his fingers from the work he performs every day? Is he using the palms of his hands as well? And if you touch him, does his skin whisper under your finger tips? Is it smooth or rough? Is his hair coarse or fine? And can you perceive his growing excitement by touch? By sound? Maybe even by smell or taste?

In the movie Nine 1/2 Weeks, Mickey Rourke and Kim Basinger play a blindfold game involving taste, as he feeds her all kinds of different foods that she can't see. In The Three Musketeers, an adult game of Blind Man's Bluff enables Faye Dunaway to seduce Simon Ward.

So what will you do with the game? Why not splurge and use a designer scarf or necktie? Enjoy the feel of silk as your lover ties it over your eyes, and then guess where he will touch you first. Or next. Will he make you wait? Will he tease you with a feather, or perhaps apply lotion to his fingers first? Anticipating the unanticipated caress can bring the most delightful shivers you can imagine.

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