The Internet has opened up a whole new erotic world to all of us. To seek out great erotic books, art, and films, people were once relegated to back alleys, seedy book stores and smoke-filled stag parties…and chances are, no “girls” were allowed in the boys’ club. Readers who truly appreciated great erotica had to be satisfied with a handful of “classics,” such as the stories of the masterful Anais Nin and the bawdier works of D. H. Lawrence.
This began to change in the 1970s, when porn movies such as Behind the Green Door, The Devil In Miss Jones, and Deep Throat were considered somewhat mainstream and shown in “respectable” theaters. The invention of the VCR brought erotic viewing into the home, though the best place to see a decent selection of erotic titles was the back room of the video store, behind the “adults only” curtain. God forbid your mailman or your mother-in-law should catch you coming out from that curtain!
Then came the Internet, which delivers the very good, the bad and the ugly to readers, viewers and listeners in the privacy of our own…wherever, twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. For lovers of the written word, there are a number of quality erotica sites available to non-subscribers, totally free. Among my favorites are www.theeroticwoman.com and www.oystersandchocolate.com. More specific sites cater to a wide range of tastes, from lesbian/gay/bisexual/transsexual to sites that appeal in interests in “pony play” (yep, one of you dresses up like and acts like a horse) to clown porn. Fans of television series and movies even get together to write “slash” fiction about their favorite characters and share it on the World Wide Web. If you can imagine it, there’s probably an erotica site out there about it.
In books, erotic fiction is a “hot” publishing trend, though people still tend to be “closet” readers. The advent of the e-book makes quality erotic books available quickly and easily…and the prices are extremely reasonable, especially compared to a new paperback from a chain bookstore. And you can get an e-book without even leaving home! You can also carry it around with you on devices like Amazon’s Kindle, making the erotic e-book portable. Just don’t get too carried away on your morning commute.
Great e-books from both established and upcoming erotica writers can be found on Amazon, on sites like AllRomanceEBooks.com, and of course, publishers’ websites like Erotique Press.
The Internet also makes person-to-person contact easier. From tame matchmaker websites like eHarmony to websites designed for one-night hook-ups, the Internet allows us to meet people we might never encounter by chance. Sometimes this can go remarkably well. Of course, it can also go quite badly. After a recent high-profile killing linked to its “Erotic Services” section, CraigsList.org discontinued taking “Erotic Services” ads. They do, however, continue to take ads for “Adult Services.” Some consider this a form of prostitution, with massage parlors promising customers a rub-down with a “happy ending.” Others contend Craig’s List is merely providing an entrepreneur with willing, and satisfied, customers, and that people who want these services will find them with or without technological help.
Even if you’re not the type to seek out specifically “erotic” websites, though, technological spices to add to your sex life are at the palm of your hand, or a social networking site away.
We’re now used to cell phones that do a whole lot more than make mere phone calls. Any cell worth its bill has a camera phone, and it didn’t take long for cell phone users to invent sexting, or sending sexually explicit photos to one another by camera phone. True, sexting is a terrible idea for the under-18 crowd, and it’s a bad idea to send a sexy photo to someone who might not want to receive it. But between consenting adults, a lunchtime photo of your breasts taken in the bathroom might be just the thing your boyfriend needs to get through his work day. And if he sends you back a partially nude shot of his cute little bum, so much the better.
Facebook doesn’t allow explicit photos…no nipples, for example. It does, however, leave the window wide open for creative, erotically-charged photos, provocative postings, and naughty applications. Want to flirt? Send the guy or girl a “lollipop request,” and they get a notification asking them if they’d like to lick your lollipop. Send your horny guy or lesbian friends a photo from the “Girls Kiss Girls” gift app, and they receive a steamy pixilated kiss. Even the ubiquitous Superpoke! app boasts a few flirty phrases. Just remember, those FB apps get posted where your friends and, possibly, family will see them, so you may want to think twice before friending Grandma, lest she see you’ve just flung thongs at 21 people.
The possibilities of techno-erotica are as numerous as the stars in the sky, or the fantasies in your risqué little brains.
Look for the orally-fixated schoolgirl fantasy “Bomb Pop,” coming soon from Erotique Press!